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Strange But True Union Bank cards now accepted on Paypal.
The Bank’s Visa, verve and MasterCard also accepted on Paypal
LAGOS- June30, 2014 – Union Bank of Nigeria Plc today announced that its card offerings – Visa, MasterCard and Verve – are now accepted on the PayPal platform.
PayPal is an international e-commerce platform that facilitates online payments and money transfers to over 190 countries. It is one of the fastest and safest ways of paying and getting paid online. The platform, also allows users send money and make payments without sharing financial information, now includes the flexibility to pay using any of the Union Bank Cards.
Commenting on this, Mr. Fatai Baruwa, Head of e-Business, Union Bank stated “As the world becomes a global village, better connected through the web, the volume of our customers’ online transactions both locally and internationally is steadily increasing. We are delighted that PayPal has extended its services to Nigeria and all our customers can now enjoy this added benefit with their Union Bank cards.”
To use PapPal, Union Bank customers can log on to www.paypal.com/ng/webapps/mpp/home , click on “Sign Up” and then follow the simple steps on the screen to create an account which links their Union Bank Card to the newly created PayPal account.
The Union Bank MasterCard is accepted worldwide and can be used to pay for goods and services at 32.7million merchant locations worldwide. The Union Bank Visa Card, issued in both Naira and US Dollars is also accepted worldwide while the Union Bank Verve card, issued in Naira, is the first and only chip card accepted on all available payment channels in Nigeria.
Union Bank is currently upgrading its use of technology by rolling out of the Bank of the Futurebranches, which will rely on technology and innovation to simplify the banking experience for customers. The bank is doubling its ATM footprint and enhancing its mobile banking platforms.
The bank has also identified and isolated six core areas which are pivotal to its success. These are: quality of our customer experience, the quality of our client base, the quality of our talent, the quality of our banking platform, our professional standards and the quality of our earnings.
Guide To Create A Nigeria Verified Paypal Account Using GTB Or Other Mastercard
fledglings manual for joining a paypal record from Nigeria.
1. Visit Paypal Nigerian landing page through https://www.paypal.com/ng/ and tap on Signup at the upper right corner of the page.
2. Tap on "Open Account" under the "individual" segment for an individual record.
3. Fill in all subtle elements and tap on "Concur and Create Account".
Getting Verified Using GT Bank's Naira MasterCard
Without checking your paypal record, you would be set at a $250 limit. Checking your paypal record gives you a chance to spend as much as you will.
4. Another page would think of a structure to log in your Card subtle elements. I utilized my GT Bank's Naira MasterCard to confirm mine.
5. You'll be diverted to your account's dashboard. Yet there are couple of things despite everything you have to do. Firstly, you need to enact your paypal record by tapping the enactment connection sent to the mail you enrolled the record with. Also, you have to connection and affirm your credit or charge card. Tap on "Connection and affirm credit or charge card" or "Get Verified" connect in your account's dashboard, embed your GTB Mastercard subtle elements here once more, then tap on "Proceed". You can make utilization of any Nigerian bank's Visa or MasterCard.
6. Paypal would deduct $1.95 from your card......
perused all the more on confirmation handle here
confirmation process
Acct:******0123
The Naira equibvalent of USD1.95 has been approved for the exchange done on PP*0123CODE 08823456789FF
What you need do is duplicate the 4 digits before CODE (highlighted in red) from your mail or SMS alarm. That is the thing that you have to affirm your card.
7. You now need to login yet again to your Nigerian Paypal record and tap on "Affirm Card" join which ought to show up on the right sidebar of your dashboard. At that point sort in the four-digits you replicated from your bank caution and tap on "Affirm Card" as demonstrated as follows.
verify your card
8. You’ll get a success popup if everything was fine and successful.
mastercard conffirmed
Recall that, I made utilization of my GTBank MasterCard here and it did work for me.
on the off chance that you utilize other banks,confirm with your bank to guarantee the card issued and given to you can be utilized to check yours.
Paypal Accounts FAQ for Nigerian Based
Ques: Does Paypal just backing the GTB Naira MasterCard In Nigeria?
Ans: No, individuals additionally making utilization of UBA, Zenith, Access and a few others bank's charge cards have been checked utilizing same systems as a part of this excercise.
Ques: What Credit Card Types are acknowledged by Paypal?
read full FAQ and more details here
paypal Faq for nigerians
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1. Visit Paypal Nigerian landing page through https://www.paypal.com/ng/ and tap on Signup at the upper right corner of the page.
2. Tap on "Open Account" under the "individual" segment for an individual record.
3. Fill in all subtle elements and tap on "Concur and Create Account".
Getting Verified Using GT Bank's Naira MasterCard
Without checking your paypal record, you would be set at a $250 limit. Checking your paypal record gives you a chance to spend as much as you will.
4. Another page would think of a structure to log in your Card subtle elements. I utilized my GT Bank's Naira MasterCard to confirm mine.
5. You'll be diverted to your account's dashboard. Yet there are couple of things despite everything you have to do. Firstly, you need to enact your paypal record by tapping the enactment connection sent to the mail you enrolled the record with. Also, you have to connection and affirm your credit or charge card. Tap on "Connection and affirm credit or charge card" or "Get Verified" connect in your account's dashboard, embed your GTB Mastercard subtle elements here once more, then tap on "Proceed". You can make utilization of any Nigerian bank's Visa or MasterCard.
6. Paypal would deduct $1.95 from your card......
perused all the more on confirmation handle here
confirmation process
Acct:******0123
The Naira equibvalent of USD1.95 has been approved for the exchange done on PP*0123CODE 08823456789FF
What you need do is duplicate the 4 digits before CODE (highlighted in red) from your mail or SMS alarm. That is the thing that you have to affirm your card.
7. You now need to login yet again to your Nigerian Paypal record and tap on "Affirm Card" join which ought to show up on the right sidebar of your dashboard. At that point sort in the four-digits you replicated from your bank caution and tap on "Affirm Card" as demonstrated as follows.
verify your card
8. You’ll get a success popup if everything was fine and successful.
mastercard conffirmed
Recall that, I made utilization of my GTBank MasterCard here and it did work for me.
on the off chance that you utilize other banks,confirm with your bank to guarantee the card issued and given to you can be utilized to check yours.
Paypal Accounts FAQ for Nigerian Based
Ques: Does Paypal just backing the GTB Naira MasterCard In Nigeria?
Ans: No, individuals additionally making utilization of UBA, Zenith, Access and a few others bank's charge cards have been checked utilizing same systems as a part of this excercise.
Ques: What Credit Card Types are acknowledged by Paypal?
read full FAQ and more details here
paypal Faq for nigerians
Share your thoughts using the comment section below, also share this post with your friends withour useful share button.
Man who promised to walk from Lagos to Abuja if Buhari wins, has arrived Abuja (See Photos)
Suleiman Hashimu aka ‘The traveler" who promised to trek from Lagos to Abuja if Gen. Buhari wins the 2015 Presidential election, arrived Abuja this evening after trekking for many weeks. Pictured above is Suleiman wearing the red shirt and carrying a strap bag. He was given a rousing welcome by Abuja residents. See more photos after the cut...
Zulu king whose remarks incited Xenophobic attacks appeals for calm
Zulu king Goodwill Zwelithini whose remarks incited Xenophobic attacks after saying "All foreigners must leave South Africa" has appealed for calm. Speaking with his subjects today April 20th in Durban, the king said his remarks were taken out of context.
"This violence directed at our brothers and sisters is shameful. My speech ... was directed at the police, calling for stricter law enforcement, but that was never reported. The public was instead given another side of my speech, which had been twisted and misrepresented." he saidHe pleaded with South Africans to stop attacking foreigners.
Ondo mystery disease: FG, WHO confirm methanol as cause of disease
The Federal Ministry of Health and World Health Organization, WHO, say that the consumption of contaminated alcohol (gin) is believed to be responsible for the outbreak of the strange disease that has claimed at least 18 lives in Ondo state. At a joint press conference today, the Minister of State for Health, Mr Fidelis Nwankwo said the disease is not in anyway related to Ebola virus disease as was earlier speculated.
"Preliminary laboratory investigations indicates that the outbreak cannot be attributed to any infectious organism, bacterial or viral. The outbreak is also clearly not due to Ebola virus disease as feared by many at first. Epidemiological findings indicate a strong linkage of the outbreak to a consumption of a local gin that had been contaminated with methanol, a poisonous material. At this stage the particular poisonous substance is being ascertained. The results of this very detailed investigation currently been conducted by the government and our partners are still been awaited and will be made public as soon as possible"he said.
94% of Irish bathing waters meet strict EU guidelines – EPA
Seven locations fail test and are classified as ‘poor’ quality probably due to wastewater
Ireland’s 136 identified bathing waters now have to meet standards almost twice as strict as those which previously applied. Three-quarters of Irish bathing waters qualified for the new classification of “excellent’’ quality. File photograph: Thinkstock/Getty Images
A total of 94 per cent of Irish bathing waters are meeting stricter new EU standards, theEnvironmental Protection Agency (EPA) has said.
“Overall, the quality of Ireland’s bathing waters continues to be very good and new standards introduced in 2014 provide a much higher level of protection for bathers,” the director of the EPA’s Office of Environmental Assessment, Dr Matt Crowe, said.
He was speaking at the publication of the agency’s report on bathing water quality inIreland for 2014.
Dr Crowe said he was disappointed that seven bathing waters had been assessed as being of “poor” quality.
These were the front strand in Youghal in Co Cork; Ardmore in Co Waterford; Duncannon in Co Wexford; south beach in Rush, Dublin; Lilliput, Lough Ennell, Westmeath; and Clifden and Ballyloughane in Galway.
The source of pollution appeared to be mainly linked to wastewater discharges, the agency found.
Sewerage works
Peter Webster, the agency’s senior scientific officer, said the local authorities in those areas, in conjunction with Irish Water, had submitted plans to the EPA for improving water quality.
In the cases of Youghal and Clifden, new sewerage works were being constructed. Mr Webster said a temporary wastewater treatment plant was proposed for Duncannon, while in Ardmore improvements to the effluent disinfection system, operated during the bathing season, were being undertaken.
In other locations, a broad range of measures aimed at identifying and tackling the main pollution sources were being implemented, he added.
Monitored
Identified bathing waters are sea, river or lake waters widely used by the public for bathing which are monitored, managed and assessed under the requirements of the 2008 bathing water quality regulations.
Ireland’s 136 identified bathing waters now have to meet standards almost twice as strict as those which previously applied.
Three-quarters of Irish bathing waters qualified for the new classification of “excellent’’ quality.
A further 15 bathing waters, or 11 per cent, were classified as being of “good’’ quality.
A total of 10 bathing areas, some 7.4 per cent, were of “sufficient’’ quality, and remained vulnerable to episodes of pollution, which meant they were potentially at risk of being classed as “poor’’ at some stage in the future.
One new bathing water, Trá Inis Oirr, in Galway, was added last year, with the water quality meeting the “excellent’’ standard.
Mr Webster said Ireland had many superb beaches and while monitoring them all would be impractical, the EPA would like to see an increase in the number of identified bathing areas
EU plan to resettle 5,000 migrants and up funding
Ireland ready to aid in resettlement and funding in conflict zones, says Minister
Migrants, who are trying to reach Greece, are rescued by members of the Greek Coast guard and locals near the coast of Rhodes. Photograph: Eurokinissi/Reuters
It follows the loss of up to 950 people on Sunday some 95km north of Libya. If confirmed, it will be the largest single loss of life in a maritime incident in modern times.
EU foreign and justice ministers meeting in Luxembourg agreed a series of measures to help combat human trafficking and mass migration into Europe, including a proposal to double the funding for the EU’s search-and-rescue operation Triton, and a plan to resettle 5,000 immigrants in Europe.
Summit
EU leaders will consider details of the “10-point plan” at Thursday’s summit, which was convened yesterday by European Council president Donald Tusk at the behest of Italian prime minister Matteo Renzi. Italy and other southern Mediterranean countries have long argued that they shoulder an unfair burden when it comes to migration, and have urged the EU to take a multi-nation approach to the issue.
Minister for Foreign Affairs Charlie Flanagan and Minister for Justice Frances Fitzgerald were among the 41 ministers at the Luxembourg meeting.
Speaking to The Irish Times Ms Fitzgerald said Ireland would engage with EU efforts to tackle the humanitarian crisis, including a proportional involvement in the proposed resettlement programme as well as the provision of humanitarian aid to conflict zones.
“We are talking about a considerable crisis and a serious humanitarian issue. It is vital that we work together to tackle this crisis, particularly in the area of people smuggling and human trafficking.”
Ireland, along with Britain, is not a member of Frontex, the EU’s border-control agency, because it is not part of the visa-free Schengen travel zone.
Mr Flanagan said Ireland would “play its part” in forging a collective EU response to the crisis. Noting that the issue of immigration “remains taboo” in some EU countries , he said it was hugely significant that 41 ministers from 28 member states had come together to discuss migration yesterday.
Distress calls
Italian and Maltese authorities reported receiving distress calls from at least two other vessels yesterday, the first a dinghy carrying between 100 and 150 people, the second a larger boat carrying 300 people.
A third vessel also ran aground off the Greek island of Rhodes, leaving three dead, with a further 80 rescued.
Speaking after yesterday’s meeting, the EU’s foreign policy chief, Federica Mogherini, said the 10-point plan showed a “strong reaction from the EU to the tragedies” and indicated “a new sense of urgency and political will”.
Among the other proposals in the plan include the establishment of immigration liaison officers in key countries, a proposal to offer immigrants return travel packages, and the introduction of fingerprinting for incoming migrants.
Linx 8 review
Microsoft may have made a big deal about the Surface Pro 3, but it’s a pricey tablet, even if it could replace your laptop. Not everyone will stretch to the Pro 3’s price tag, but there are other, more compact options, that don’t involve the limitations of Windows RT. The Linx tablet is Windows 8.1 with Bing, which means it comes in at the cheaper end of the scale and also includes a free year’s subscription of Microsoft Office 365.
The device is powered by an Intel processor, a quad-core 1.8ghz Bay Trail-T chip. It comes with 1GB of RAM, and a front and rear camera. Some of the more budget devices will eliminate one camera as a way of achieving that budget price; it’s good to see that the Linx 8 kept both, even if they aren’t the highest spec.
Power and volume controls are on the right side of the device; the left side has a slot for a MicroSD card. Micro USB for charging, mini HDMI and headphone jack are all on the top of the tablet, with speakers relegated to the bottom rear of the device.
The good
One of the most obvious bonus points about the Linx 8 is the price. At about €130 for the 32GB version, it’s a decent price for a Windows tablet with a good screen.
Speaking of screens, the display on the Linx 8 isn’t half-bad. It’s a little on the shiny side, which means the reflections can be a bit distracting, and it’s not as high resolution as others – at 800 x 1280 – but the colours are vivid and the text is crisp enough. The viewing angles are good too, unlike some other budget tablets. Everything has been sized accordingly, so you don’t feel the screen is being crammed with icons.
Lookswise, it blends in with a lot of tablets out there. The eight-inch version reviewed here is compact enough to hold in one hand but large enough to read or work on when needed. It has a rubberised casing that makes it easier to grip and also eliminates the fingerprint problem that plagues many of its shinier-coated brethren. Plus it weighs in at 377gm, which means it won’t weigh you down.
The not so good
The 1GB of RAM compares poorly with other tablets of this size. For example, Sony’s Android-based Xperia Z3 Tablet Compact comes with 3GB of RAM, while the Samsung Tab S 8.4-inch version matches the Sony device. But both of those devices come at a significant premium to the Linx 8.
The same goes for the camera. The Linx 8 has two – front and rear facing – and both clock in at two megapixels. Again, it compares poorly when put up against some of the five megapixel cameras and higher that tablets are getting these days, but unless you plan to swap out your smartphone camera or regular point-and-shoot for the Linx 8, the included cameras will stand up to video calling and quick snaps here and there.
As for capacity, it’s a good thing you can expand the space on this tablet; with a large chunk of available space taken up by the operating system, you’ll need some extra storage if you want to use the Linx for videos or music outside of the usual cloud services. Because let’s face it, cloud services aren’t suitable for everything. Get on board a wifi-less plane, go roaming abroad or even just hit a bad signal area and your access is limited. That said, the Linx 8 comes with a 1TB storage space on OneDrive, so you can store quite a bit if you are fully on-board with the cloud.
The version we had for review showed almost 20GB of free space out of 23.8GB before we even installed a single app ourselves – so you aren’t getting the full 32GB to play with. Install a few programmes on there and you’ll see that 20GB eroded quickly.
The rest
Battery life is between five and seven hours, which is lower than other tablets but will give you enough time to do a bit of web browsing or watch a movie. That five hours minimum time will, of course, be dependent on what you are using the tablet for. Anything remotely power-hogging will eat into that time before you know it.
Luckily, the tablet charges over micro USB, so it’s likely that you’ll have a charger to hand, or even a back-up battery.
Like other Windows 8.1 devices, you can access the desktop but, on device this size, the chances of you really needing to are limited. With the spec of the Linx, it’s not going to run any power hungry apps, or high-end software. But it’s there as a “just-in-case” option.
The verdict
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Not the highest spec, but when it comes to budget tablets, the Linx 8 is a contender
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Update: Our full review will be here soon, but in the meantime read on for our impressions of Apple's new, thinner and lighter 12-inch MacBook. Apple's new laptop is now on sale, but you'll have to wait a short while to get your hands on it. According to Apple's retail site, times have now stretched to three to four weeks for all three colours, which on the plus side gives you a little longer to save up for one. Can't wait that long? You might want to check out our review of Apple's new MacBook Pro 13-inch with Retina display.
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- Buy 12-inch MacBook 256GB - Gold at Apple Products - UK for £1049.00
Apple's new Macbook is all about style, while still combining it with oodles of power. This is apparently the 'notebook redefined' according to the Cupertino brand, and it certainly does push the envelope in one area: the lightness of this thing is insane.
The specs are pretty goshdarn good as well, with the new Macbook coming in at just 13.1mm thin and weighing 2 pounds (or 900g). That's insane when you consider there's a battery in there which has 35% more capacity than previous models, and also offers up to 9 hours of web browsing too.
The new notebook comes with a 1.1 GHz dual-core Intel Core M processor with Turbo Boost speeds up to 2.4 GHz, 8GB of memory, 256GB of flash storage and Intel HD Graphics 5300. If you want to turn the power up a little, then you can go for 1.2 GHz dual-core option, with Intel Core M processor with Turbo Boost speeds up to 2.6GHz, 8GB of memory, 512GB of flash storage and Intel HD Graphics 5300.
There's already been a bit of fuss around performance of the Intel Core M CPU following a supposed benchmark that crept onto the internet. A Geekbench result that has since been deleted found that the new MacBook's CPU is practically the same strength as the one in the 2011 MacBook Air.
Whether that's true or not, the cheaper configuration will cost $1299 / £1049, and the latter $1599 / £1299... not cheap despite the boosted specs and design. Speaking of which...
Design
The new Macbook is so light you could mistake it for a half-empty sheaf of papers. Holding it in one hand is quite unnerving, as you feel you could snap it without holding properly.
The edges of the Macbook are smooth and pleasant, with no sharpness to be found. I'll be honest and say I didn't want to see if it would bend in front of the stand bunnies at the Apple launch, but I didn't get the feeling that was a mistake Apple was going to make twice.
The keyboard has been retooled to include a 'butterfly hinge' underneath each key. This means they're massive and to be honest, lacking in travel. I'm sure that's the sort of thing that after a while will become a genius idea for some, but in my brief time with it all I could think was 'man, these are some big ol' keys'.
The travel was pretty minimal though - having come from typing on a Macbook Pro, with one of the easiest keyboards I've ever found to tap away on, I wasn't instantly blown away by the improvement. The keys felt more solid under my fingertips, but that was never an issue I had a lot of problems with before.
It feels like Apple has solved a problem that wasn't there - but done it well anyway.
The force touchpad is cool, with levels of clicks that aren't really there. That's to say that the more you press down, the more levels of haptic you hit - it's a cool idea but one that requires some sensitivity.
I played with it trying to fast forward through a video with different levels of sensitivity - I got quite adept within seconds, but it did require concentration.
As did remembering that the force touch was there. The idea that you can use it to expand the content you're looking for (be it more information on words, or a location in an email) is a good one - I'm just not sure the experience is as intuitive as it could be.
The touchpad could do more than just letting you click on things. An app called Inklet by Ten One design lets you use a pressure-sensitive stylus to draw by pressing down on it. It's the first third-party app to support the force touchpad, and it remains to be seen whether it will be anywhere near as precise as dedicated graphics tablets.
The lack of any port bar the USB-C connector for HDMI, power and, well, everything else, is a bold one. Initially I was saddened by the loss of so many ports, but if it makes the new Macbook this thin, I'm all over it.
I don't think I'll be able to survive on one port, which means that I'll be carrying around some connected doohickey for a long while yet. Even ethernet is still needed from time to time, and I'm not sure that's even supported.
There is a headphone jack in the side of the new Macbook, which almost seems to dictate the size of the frame itself. I didn't think I'd be saying this so soon, but laptops and mobile phones are getting to the point where the thickness isn't that different.
The new Macbook felt super speedy in tests, but then again with that much power on board I'd worry if it couldn't perform during rudimentary testing.
Shout has to go out to the new Retina display as well - its clear, bright and seems over the top in terms of sharpness already - that's Apple all over, right?
Best 7 Ways to Bounce Back from Life’s Inevitable Setbacks
Ways to Bounce Back from Life’s Inevitable Setbacks
The good news, for all of us: there’s hope. Over the past decade Angel and I have worked with thousands of people all over the globe who, like us, struggle with setbacks of varying degrees. Through our work, we’ve learned a lot about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to bouncing back and making progress. So today, I hope I can save you some trouble…
Here’s what works:
1. Accept reality and detach from fantasies.
There are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.
To move forward in any situation, you must first accept the reality of what it is. This acceptance provides you with an important starting point from which you can move in any direction you choose. To deny this reality or to fight against the past will merely waste your time and energy. To wish that things were different, or to pretend that they are, gets you nowhere.
Acceptance is letting go and allowing things to be the way they truly are. It doesn’t mean you don’t care about improving the realities of life – it’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself in the present moment. This simple understanding is the foundation of acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be peace and growth in your life.
Forgiveness is a big part of this process. Forgiveness is the acceptance of the present moment, as it is, without attachment to any other time, place or circumstance. Almost all negativity is caused by a lack of forgiveness and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, guilt, tension, stress, worry, and resentment – all forms of unhealthy attachment – are caused by too much past or future, and not enough presence.
2. Embrace who you are and all your humanness.
Self-doubt plagues us because we desperately want to be somebody we’re not. I often want to be perfectly disciplined, for example, and when I’m not I come down hard on myself. The key, I’ve found, is to remind myself that although not perfect, the person I am is pretty darn great. I just need to embrace the reality that I’m not always as disciplined as I’d like to be. And I also need to remember that I have had many successes in my life. (Just like YOU.)
So I challenge you to walk beside me on this journey…
Accept your humanness. You can stop pretending. It feels good to own up to stuff – to admit that you’re human – a work in progress – a beautiful mess. Wanting to be someone or something else is a waste of your beauty. You’re fine. If you feel like you aren’t, you’re blowing things out of proportion. Having a little anxiety is fine. Making mistakes is fine. Being a little fearful is fine. Your secrets are fine. You’re a good person. You’re intelligent. You’re fine just the way you are.
3. Allow yourself to feel emotional pain, so you can grow beyond it.
Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional when life knocks you down hard. There’s no reason to be ashamed for feeling something or for expressing pain if it’s real to you. It’s a sign that you have a big heart, and that you aren’t afraid to be honest about it. Showing your emotions is a sign of human strength. The people who judge you for being human, and not being modest, emotionless, and “in line,” are the ones who need to apologize.
By trying to hide your pain, and not wanting to feel bad, you make your bad feelings worse. But by allowing yourself to feel bad, and realizing we all feel bad sometimes, you give yourself space to deal with the truth. So give yourself this space, and embrace it. Too many people want to feel happy all the time, and positive every single second, but that’s not reality. We all feel bad sometimes, and that’s OK. When you accept this, and embrace the growing pains of living, you rise above the pain. It happens, then it fades, and you’re stronger than you were before.
4. Remind yourself that everything in life is temporary.
Your big breakthrough will come when you recognize that all your inadequacies, all your limitations, and all your failings, losses and setbacks, are only temporary. And once they pass in the real world, they’re prolonged existence is simply an artificial reality you cling to with your thoughts.
Yes, there may be pain and uncertainty for a while, but it never lasts forever. Time heals. Even when Angel and I unexpectedly lost loved ones to illnesses, feelings of depression would come and go for months, but eventually it went away. It’s easy to get caught up in a bad situation and think, “The world is over!” But actually, this bad feeling and situation are just passing clouds. They’re just part of an ever-changing experience, and while it’s not always pleasant, it will pass like everything else has passed. Life doesn’t stop for anyone.
So don’t allow your temporary wounds to permanently transform you into someone you aren’t. A strong person is not the one who doesn’t cry. A strong person is the one who cries for a moment openly, and then gets up and fights again for what they believe in.
5. Find gratitude in the present moment.
This always sounds at bit cliché – promoting gratitude as a universal solution – but the reason it’s always mentioned is because it works. Every time.
Even after a loved one passes, the actual present reality of our lives without this loved one isn’t unbearable unless we compare it to the impossible fantasy of them still being alive. The reality is, we still have our own lives and our health and passions to explore… we still have other wonderful family members and friends who love us… and that’s just the start of things to be grateful for. Now, this reality isn’t always full of happiness – sometimes it has unpleasantness – but you can embrace that too, instead of wishing it matched up with a stressful fantasy.
So keep your head up. Take a deep breath and be grateful for everything that remains and everything that’s growing stronger in your life. When it feels like everything is falling apart, remind yourself that you can either let it define you, destroy you, or let it strengthen you.
When you finally let go of what did or didn’t happen, something equally as amazing comes along. And oftentimes what you’re looking for comes when you’re not looking at all. Gratitude will help you discover it.
6. Clear the unnecessary clutter and complications standing in your way.
As Einstein once said, “Out of clutter, find simplicity; from discord, find harmony; in the middle of difficulty, lies opportunity.”
Sometimes we make life more complicated than it is. We attach our happiness to achievement and then look for it in all the wrong ways and in all the wrong places. Of course, you don’t have to live like this. If you feel like you are, it’s time to simplify things. It’s time to clear the air and get back to the basics.
Simplifying is not seeing how little you can get by with – that’s poverty – but how efficiently you can put first things first, and use your time accordingly to pursue the things that make a difference and mean the most to you. Less truly is more. Instead of adding, improve your life by subtracting. Get rid of unnecessary clutter, negative influences and toxic relationships. There’s a big difference between what you want and what you need, between what’s excessive and what’s essential.
7. Reach out and help people.
Our setbacks are often mostly about us, wallowing in our own self-pity. This doesn’t sound great, but we all do it almost every day to a small extent without noticing it. When you catch yourself doing this, know that the best antidote is to get outside yourself, stop being self-centered, and re-focus on the people around you. Try to find a way to help someone else. It will inevitably, infallibly, make you feel better.
When we realize that helping others is the key to realizing our own happiness, it saves us a lot of trouble.
Truth be told, the closest thing to being cared for is to care for others. We are all in this together and we should treat each other as such. Use your voice for kindness, your ears for compassion, and your hands for charity, always. No exercise is better for your heart and mind than reaching down and helping others up. Happiness and success in life doesn’t come through selfishness, but through selflessness. The best way to feel alive on down days is to get up and do something positive for the folks around you.
And remember, you don’t need a reason to help someone. Just do it. The reason will come to you.
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